This puts the relationship in a very dark place where both types due to the way their brains function are unequipped to exit thus both intj and isfj harbour negative feelings for each other i can write pages about the conflict between intj and isfj.
Yes omgoodness yes after an extremely unreliable husband dating an isfj is the most calming and safe experience ever.
Of course it can it depends on individual expectations of a relationship more than anything else but in the end its obvious that general intj and isfj traits are not the most similar which can result in very different worldviews goals and interests.
Intj mastermind introvert intuitive thinking judging intjs spend much of their time making sense of the world using their intuition applying their logic they find associations between events generate possibilities and test theoretical models against reality.
The intj is the patient visionary clear on how the future should look and will work with quiet logical determination to make it happen the intj loves an intellectual challenge and is stimulated by the abstract the complex the new and the untried facts and figures bore them.
I am an intj female amp was dating an isfj male recently my mo was to accept him for who he was and adapt accordingly i would approach him trying to resolve the issue and of course this was seen as conflict amp my reasonable approach was seen as harsh amp nonempathetic.